Christian Dating: 7 Months To Separate Those Who Lust From Those Who Love

This article, in creative form (if only because of use of poetic license) has been the product of a life till age 63. It is a life lived in two nations, divided thus: 1959-1983: in South Africa; 1983-1995 in USA; 1995-1999 in Africa; 2000-2019 in USA; 2019-2021 in South Africa. Let's start with advice to Christians who wish to date from age 18 upward. Until one has completed high school with a successful diploma to show for it, I cannot offer you Christian dating advice. Only after this social and legal milestone is reached, I consider one ready for Christ-centered dating. The Christian female must set boundaries that include: 1. We must meet in person in a public place for safety, even after a photograph has been shared and verified. But we shall neither hug, kiss, or touch our bodies that is God's temple for His Holy Spirit in believers in Jesus Christ (1 Corinthians, 6:19) 2. We must agree to attend a church weekly: Sundays are best, but no physical contact yet, but agree on a safe place for meals or coffee (in public places that your loved-ones at home are told about just in case). 3. Ask questions, about each other's intentions in that new relationship. Ask lots of questions. Nothing should be disallowed. Discuss these answers with your family members (or adult advisors). If a younger couple begins to date with these rules, no scam artist or flowery promises, can disguise lust as love. These 7 months in a church that honors Jesus Christ as God on earth (according to the Bible,) will reveal if he honors the lady as he ought. In South Africa, we have an epidemic of GBV - gender based violence - that's wiping out large numbers of females in certain age-groups. Public schools are notorious! In 7 months of Christian dating, a male who waits to touch or kiss his girlfriend-to-be, will prove whether he is a Christian who walks the talk. If we again respect and value our God-designed bodies, we will not let others touch them intimately. Now, in this global Corona Virus pandemic era, it seems elementary. Clean, virgin bodies, including lips, are to be respected. Your "limits and boundaries" during dating will show the male he ought to start dating YOU, by respecting your body as yours, not his property (Recall, we say the same when abortions are advocated). If one follows such simple dating rules for Christians who love Jesus as Godhead, one will be happy, or produce a happy, family. shalom, shalom in Jesus DISCALIMER: I am NOT judging sex-attack victims