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I WAS ME


First I was me,

Selfish as can be,

Wanting everything from A to Z

And wanting it all for me.


Then I became we,

A part of an us.

I learned to share, give and take

I learned how to trust.


Next I was you,

Believe me it's true.

I would rather give than receive,

It was you I wanted to please.


Now I am them,

A family man.

Giving my children,

All that I can.


If you look real close,

It is easy to see,

I am older and wiser,

And no longer a me.





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Don't Cry for me Argentina


Blog Posted:1/30/2014 4:47:00 PM
Okay, I am coming clean here and wish to hear what other poets think about this subject.

I am a very lucky man. My life has been lived relatively free of heartache, pain, loss or suffering. I have not lost a wife, child or even many friends to tragic or young deaths. Most of the death I have personally experienced has been that of older relatives who lived long and fruitful lives.

But … and here is where the questions come in about your opinion …

I write a lot of poetry, in first person, about death. I have written many a poem about losing a child, losing a wife, lover or someone else very near and dear to me … ALL FICTIONALIZED!!! I just seem to do a better job of writing my poems in first person. What do you think about writing poems in first person about an imagined experience? Is that, somehow, wrong? Or, deceitful? What do you think?

I sometimes get personal comments back from people saying things like, “Sorry for your loss”, etc., and I feel like I have lied to them about my circumstances. But, it’s only a poem. Written in a style that I seem to have the most success with.

What do think? Should I change my ways? Try to make these poems third person?

All comments are welcomed. I do value the opinions of many of you here.

Thanks.

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  1. Date: 1/31/2014 11:32:00 PM
    Many poets wrute about death the way you have described. I do not think you should change your ways. What you could do is at the end of your poem may a note. "Fictional Account". I have no idea on what else to say.

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  1. Date: 1/30/2014 9:52:00 PM
    I kind of thought it was fictionalized, but here is what I would tell you, Joe. When I read a poem in the first person and it's a tragedy that could very well be true for the writer, I really feel confused what to say. So my solution for that, when i do such a poem myself, is to make a notation at the bottom: Fictional account. something like that. problem solved!!

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    Flach Avatar Joe Flach Date: 1/31/2014 5:45:00 PM Block poet from commenting on your poetry

    Thanks for your input Andrea. Yeah, most of my facebook friends and folks who know me, recognize my fiction right off. My wife hates the fact that I "kill her off" in so many of my poems. ;-) Good idea about putting the "Fiction" tag at the end. Others have suggested the same thing.
  1. Date: 1/30/2014 9:42:00 PM
    :D I'm a fiction writer but most of my poetry is true to life. Some of my poems are not my life but are true, which is usually apparent by its title, like Darfur or Sylvia Plath. I wrote a poem about about a child dying of the plague in 13th century London. Every one knew it wasn't me. , I suggest that, when you write fiction which may cause others to worry about you, to simply choose IMAGINATION as the category, Nothing else, not love, loss, I-need-hugs-now etc, as I have (like when I wrote one based on that hit song, I kissed a girl and I liked it. LOL.. didn't want a rumour to start I was changing teams, though, hey, that team looks nice, no toilet seats up, no refusing to ask directions lol). Anyhow. That should solve the confusion, for the most part and save that "awkward" feeling for all. Smiles from Cyndi

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    Flach Avatar Joe Flach Date: 1/31/2014 5:43:00 PM Block poet from commenting on your poetry

    Thanks for the input Cyndi. Good idea about choosing IMAGINATION as a category. I sometimes have a big problem selecting a category that fits my poems and just use "Life" as my default category.
  1. Date: 1/30/2014 7:17:00 PM
    As many as 52 poems I have written are fictionalized. I don't think it is dishonesty. Sometimes we observing the people, friends and relatives write about them in first person or add spices in. Joe

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    Flach Avatar Joe Flach Date: 1/31/2014 5:41:00 PM Block poet from commenting on your poetry

    Thanks for your insight, Dr Mehta. That is what I do - I witness life and then put myself in their shoes and imagine how I would feel. I have even written first person poems in which I am a woman - I don't think anyone mistakes those for being autobiographical. ;-)
  1. Date: 1/30/2014 5:20:00 PM
    I think if you leave a note at the end of the poem saying it is fiction, that should suffice...

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    Flach Avatar Joe Flach Date: 1/31/2014 5:39:00 PM Block poet from commenting on your poetry

    Thanks for your input Joseph. I have done that on a couple of my poems, but not on all of them. Good idea though.

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