Getting Over the "Being Accepted" Hump
Blog Posted:7/25/2013 2:06:00 PM
I have read a few blogs about people being somewhat tormented by the response and feedback they sometimes get about their poems. This issue does not deal with what is said here on the soup but what close friends and family have to say about their poetry. This can sometimes act as a suppressant to many would-be poets.
I was a “closet poet” for about 40 years. Writing poetry was a part of me that did not fit the outer shell I had portrayed to the world. I am somewhat athletic; like to consider myself masculine; am a serious business man; am not otherwise creative or artistic; and just do not fit the stereotype for a poet. So, my poems were kept to myself. I feared my peers, my business contacts and my family would not understand or appreciate this, dare I say, poetic ability I had.
Finally, and I do not know exactly what the impetus was, at 50 years of age I came out of the poetry closet and went public with my poetry. Unfortunately, many of my poems from younger years were lost over time, but, some I still had and many more started pouring out of me.
And guess what? My fears were actually realized! My peers, my friends and many in my family ridiculed, and still do, this passion of mine. Some think they do so good naturedly, but it still hurts, though I try to hide that fact. It’s funny how some of those closest to me, that I thought would at least fake an interest in this hobby of mine, can be the cruelest or the least interested in what I do. And, some, that I thought would be the last people on earth to take an interest, have become my biggest fans.
I simply post this blog to suggest that you need to get over that hump of worrying what others think. Realize that not everyone you love and hope love you will understand or empathize or appreciate your need to write and share your poetry. Poetrysoup is great because it is a collection of others that have this same passion, interest and talent – but your circle of friends, family and cohorts may not. And, so be it.
I now get my poetry fix and openly share what I do. For those who don’t like it – fine, we can still connect on other levels. For those who have changed their opinions of me for the worst, I can live with that. For those who have changed their opinion about me for the better, I am glad.
I am not going to go cliché and say, I write for me, because, I do have an innate desire to share my poems and have others appreciate and enjoy them. I do write for others – but, I cannot always control who those others are.
So, proudly step out of that poetry closet and let your creativity flow. Even if it is only us here who really appreciate your talent, let that be enough for now. Others will either eventually understand or are not worth worrying about.
Nuff said. Thanks for reading.