what went wrong 2

Written by: michael madukairo



What went wrong 2

Do you know why most men get married?
They get married
Not because of the companionate friendship with her 
Nor of the love affection or conviction for her
Nor the intimate connection of submissiveness to each other

But it is with the intention to have a male child 
As patriarchal superiority is evident in every culture
Most culture denied her of her self-dignity
Her self-worth was valued at a price
She was told she doesn’t have a voice or a choice
She was told to be blindly submissive to the male

She was labeled with many names
She been called a witch to be burned…a bitch to be messed
Culture has many names for her
She is the one who is possessed with demons
She is the virgin to be used as sacrifice to man-made-gods

She is betrothed from childbirth to a man without her consent
Since she cannot choose her lover…she is helplessly in love
Or to a wealthy family friend’s male child…or an old rich male
For repayment of debt…or in exchange of goods and services
Or used as a bait to build formidable alliance out of selfish interest

Since the female child is seen as a second class citizen
So the wife soul is enslaved in such reality
To produce a male child at all cost as if she's the giver of Child
As she seek for a male child through the darkest night
Always praying to God the giver and hoping for light

As pressure surrounds the place of labor
And she prays to her god to die if she gave birth 
To a second-class citizen such as she is
And at most times she is abandoned 
When he learns it was she again
Other times she commits suicide to elope this shameful world

Until he stops the discrimination and forceful domination
Until he accepts each sex as gift from God
And identify with the strength the female possess
To support him with her independent choices

If he does not identify with his own fault and accept her flaws
And recognize that better than syndrome is a deception
Since nobody is good or perfect except God 
That love is the ability to accept her weakness

And without her given the same platform to develop as the male
Without her functioning according to how she was designed by the Creator
To co-exist in family life…public life…business life
Without her coming to his rescue…and free him from his stereotyped burdens
Without accepting that he can not achieve it but needs her
He will forever despise the precious gift that is for him to explore 
Without been able to love her unconditionally and endlessly