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A LETTER TO MY DAUGHTER - HARD CONVERSATIONS

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A LETTER TO MY DAUGHTER - HARD CONVERSATIONS

Love,

While you were at school today, I watched the morning news. One of those dark-seed thoughts sprouted and I became so upset that I blinked back tears. 

You see, Monday is Remembrance Day. 

And it got me thinking, about war, about the horrors that man can inflict upon man. Bayonets. Land mines. Water torture. Experimentation. Starvation. 

It was at that moment that I realized that soon, too soon, you will learn about these things, and though I want to be the one to discuss these things with you... it struck me that I have no idea what I will say when you begin to ask me the hard questions.

Already, what you ask astounds me, leaves me hollowed, feeling so inadequate, lost. 

You've asked me why some parents aren't more loving to their children, speak to them so "awfully." You've asked me why there are countries without enough water and why some don't have enough to eat. You've asked me why people must die, why people aren't more kind and why people hurt each other.

And I've stumbled along, given you the best answers that I can. I have made sure the answers are honest, but I do my best to shelter you from the harsher facts, making sure that what I say is age appropriate.

But one day you will ask me about the Holocaust and Hitler. You will learn about slavery, infanticide and gang rapes. And school shootings. And Syria. 

You will ask me what is evil and then you will ask why does it exist? 

How can supposedly good people stand by and let horrible things happen to an entire culture? How can someone see more worth in a $6 latte than buying a coffee and sandwich for the homeless man they see every day, but refuse to acknowledge with so much as a smile? 

I have taught you that hate is a bad word and one we can choose to use ... or REFuse to use. You- at only four - have already asked me about hate. Our conversation is one I will never forget, always treasure. And that you internalized all that information, that I can see that you have come to understand the power of choice, fills me with such a feeling of peace and hope.  

Monday is Remembrance Day.

Your mom feels as small as one soldier's cross amongst thousands, aching for that enormous heart of yours that will shudder when you learn that the villains in your fairytales pale compared to the real life villains, some dead and some very much alive.

Please, just for tonight, ask me about migration, again, or why God invented the letter E, which you say is the worst letter in the alphabet, and tomorrow I do my best try to explain about war. 

I love you, monkey. Stay you. 

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  1. Date: 11/30/2013 11:52:00 PM

    Oh, how I understand, Cyndi! You are a wonderful mom. Thanks for sharing this... my big guy is six now, losing his innocence a little more each day. He sees bullying in school already. I wish I could protect him from the evils of the world. I know I don't have all the answers, but I try to set an example...another fave...hugs, Rhonda

  1. Date: 11/30/2013 9:19:00 PM

    Wholesome... We try our best to protect them from hate, teach them about hate, but never showing them how to feel hate, now that's love. It's a scary world we live in, choose to be brave because our children mimic what they see!

  1. Date: 11/29/2013 8:39:00 PM

    amazing Cyndi, I like answering the easy questions first. I'm charmed by the monkey calling. lol with much love, I know exactly how it goes when you have to explain to the little one, life comes with villains who take more than a little princess. I love this one cuz I've always wanted to write my daughter a note that wishes upon her pumpkin love. .miss the old questions. hugs. . ps...thanks for the visit. ... YES, YOU HAVE MY PERMISSION TO USE MY NAME IN A POSITIVE EXAMPLE. ... xox..Linda

  1. Date: 11/15/2013 10:23:00 PM

    There are so few writers that make me just put my hand under my chin and be amazed until the end at your grasp of reality, your true love of what really is that tree of life like the movie-----what the crap--I can't think of it now!!! But----OH Avitar!!! Or however it's spelled. Anyhow, please keep on with your wonderful compassionate and spear-in-the-heart truths, because they do hit home! FAV!

  1. Date: 11/15/2013 8:02:00 AM

    What a lucky little girl, her mom being Cyndi MacMillan . So glad you are back. love, Kathy