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To Heal Is Not Mine

To heal is not mine.... With the words; "In time you will heal", many try to console me. Though said with all good intent, there is no consolation; only hurt and anger I feel. For those words translate to me; that there should be a limit to my grief and that in time... I should be okay with my loss. To heal is to..... cure, make well, restore; those words.... those utterances have no relevancy to my loss. So to heal is not mine. Oh...but there is a promise that the future holds I'm told, hence; in all desperation and with all might I grasp hold; just as a frightened child clutches the strong and secure hand of her towering father. The promise of a perfect and everlasting healing...when life to many sleeping in death will surely be restored. So alas until then.... To heal is not mine. By; Joan Marie Peranteau (mommy) Dedicated to and written in regards to my son Nathaniel Blaine Gibson.

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Sharlotte Newan

Date: 12/23/2014 5:49:00 PM

I LOVED THIS

Arthur Vaso

Date: 7/15/2014 5:38:00 PM

I know i it may seem meaningless, but I feel your pain, Richard said what I feel so eloquently, No words can heal, so as I could say so much more I will simply offer you a hug.

Joanmarie Peranteau
Date: 8/8/2014 9:08:00 AM

Thank you Arthur...

Richard Lamoureux

Date: 7/12/2014 9:41:00 AM

During grief a listening and compassionate ear offers the most healing. The hard part about such a profound loss is that people don't know how to react and as a result the person in the midst of the loss feels even more isolated. I hope you are surrounded by listening compassionate friends.

Joanmarie Peranteau
Date: 8/8/2014 9:15:00 AM

So true Richard... I know all mean well and everything is said with good intent, however; until one has a loss such as mine, and I know a few, they won't understand how the words "In time you will heal" will register in their mind. I won't heal, I just have to learn to live with this horrific wound, devastating blow. Only healing will come when God's Promise is fulfilled.

Kika Ayala

Date: 7/9/2014 12:56:00 AM

Hi JoanMarie, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. This is a very beautiful, sad write. Please take care of yourself. Kika

Joanmarie Peranteau
Date: 7/11/2014 12:47:00 AM

Thank you...

Pandita Sietesantos

Date: 7/9/2014 12:38:00 AM

Hi JoanMarie, this is such a beautiful but heart-wrenching write about the loss of your precious child. As a mother I can feel your pain and ask you to please accept my sincere condolences. My thoughts and prayers go out to you in your grief. Best wishes.

Joanmarie Peranteau
Date: 7/11/2014 12:49:00 AM

Thank you...

Weston Gregory

Date: 7/5/2014 12:19:00 PM

very emotional piece which send a reassuring message that we are able to.. not withstanding....i like the line "that there would be a limit to my grief in time" very good write Mommy

Joanmarie Peranteau
Date: 7/11/2014 12:48:00 AM

Thank you...